Marriage, just a piece of paper or a lifetime commitment?

as usual i had a long chat with fcukers 2 on one particular night when we came across this question about marriage. you see la, we always guess who is going to marry first. the first person that always came into our mind is none other than toad himself. we still got a long way to go so let see our guess zhun bo ^_^
but the real question is, "is marriage the same to guys not girls?"

(warning: This post is not about shooting the girls or protecting the guys. it is just my point of view about marriage. so i'm not refering to all the girls in general. Thank you.
Sixsphere Valentin Lay)
for ladies, marriage is all about going to ROM sign that piece of treaty paper, few months (or maybe years!?) later start to host the wedding ceremony. it's so simple, what you need are cash, wedding rings and a whole bunch of known and unknown relatives and friends to kick off your marriage.

but for some guys, that includes me, prefer to be a bit low profile. i believe that marriage is about two people nia no need to go around 敲罗打鼓 ba. i'm ok about spreading the news from mouth to mouth but is just that i feel is a waste of time and of course money to host a wedding ceremony la. maybe those some rich bastards who came back from US thinks that they have enough money to do it then they will make it grand. call me stingy or what but seriously speaking i think the cost of marriage is about SGD$30.00++ onli.

so why the bother of a wedding ceremony then? it all starts with your ccb girlfriend's mother future mother-in-law. she knows that you are marrying her daughter, she will give you her blessings and ask for a formal ceremony. but actually in her mind she thinks that her daughter 出嫁 leh, she die die also also want let her friends, friend de friend, and her long lost neva contact relatives know also. so it all comes down to wedding ceremony= 面子, the bigger the better, just like the boobs.

but not always is the mother fault, sometimes is the GIRLS fault. i can't understand why they cannot think like the male species sometimes. is usually due to the things they expect from guys. accorading to bear, he thinks that wedding ceremony act as a sense of security given by the guys to the girls. i don't totally disagree with that. but how come they always want that sense of secutity huh? have they even wonder that we guys also want that sense of security one de.
imagine this, you hang out with girls often, soon your girlfriend become jealous and start to rant about, "i don't have sense of security when i'm with you, there is always girls around you blar blar...." so being a good boyfriend you switch to auto gear. but hor, they can hang out with their male friends and still got the cheek to ask you will you be jealous or not!? chao turtle where's our sense of security then!!!

but actually you can't really blame the girls, they have to protect themselves. usually they are the ones providing, so guys should consider that and give her all the best. not too much, not too little. just enough to fill her empty heart.

i like how Mr Johnny Depp handle his relationship. so what they are not offically married, so what Vanessa Paradis is not called Mrs Depp. Just like what himself says, "if you are together and you love each other and are good to each other... for all intents and purposes you are married" i like that line.

so ladies, you want the paper or our hearts? =)